We’re off to a great start to 2016. If you’re just joining us, we’ve spent the last two weeks of “Think Right Thursday” on a series about being an emotionally healthy person. Even though I’m a physical doctor, I know that what happens in our minds has just as much impact on our bodies as the foods we eat and the activities we perform.
As I was mapping out where I want to go in 2016, I wrote down the following statements:
“Self esteem is the reflection of self judgement. One of the best ways to raise self esteem is to make truly loving choices that lead to increased strength of mind body spirit.
I must :
- Accept that my all my choices are a reflection of what I truly love.
- Acknowledge that love is the most creative force in the universe and use it wisely.
- Choose to love myself more than external things.
- Treat myself well. This will accelerate the growth of my self esteem.
- Keep in mind that what I appreciate appreciates.
The more I believe in myself the more objectively I will be able to take the advice of authority figure.
When people are commenting on my results and say things like, ‘Wow! You have a lot of discipline,’ I will answer, ‘NO, I JUST MAKE LOVING CHOICES FOR MYSELF.’ Reinforcing my positive behavior will help me grow even more in personal strength with mind body and spirit.”
In Week #1, we looked at the phrase: “Self-esteem is the reflection of self-judgement.”
- How do you view yourself? Do you like yourself, or do you wish you were somehow better?
That led us into the next phrase in Week #2: “One of the best ways to raise self-esteem is to make truly loving choices that lead to increased strength of mind, body, and spirit.”
- Life and death are in the power of the tongue. You are constantly talking to yourself about yourself. Why not say good things?
My Choices Show My Values
So now, let’s dig into the next statement: “I must accept that my all my choices are a reflection of what I truly love.”
My Pastor often says, “Show me your calendar and your checkbook and I will tell you what your priorities are.” It’s so true. When I sit down to schedule my week, I have blocks for work, blocks for teaching, blocks for reading and personal development, blocks for exercise, blocks for my kids, blocks for my social life, blocks for my spiritual life, and so on. If you were to glance quickly at my color-coded calendar, my hope is that you wouldn’t see one color predominant over all the others. Some weeks are like that, but I’m working on it.
Incidentally, you could infer what my priorities are by looking at the order I listed the blocks in the preceding paragraph. That would indicate that work is my first priority and my kids end up somewhere down the list. I would like to think that’s not the case, but my subconscious might be telling me something. For most of us, there’s a difference between what we think our priorities are and what we would LIKE to think our priorities are. If you tell me that your family is your highest priority, but you work 80 hours a week and go golfing on Saturdays, then I would have to disagree with your assessment.
- If you have an entire day free to do whatever you want, how would you fill it?
- If you had ten thousand dollars in your hands, how would you spend it?
- If you say you want to be healthy, but you eat Twinkies and 7-11 Hot Dogs every day, then you can see that you don’t truly love your health, no matter what you say about it.
- If you spend all day on Facebook, then don’t tell me how important your career is. How you choose to spend your time (and your money) shows what is really important to you.
Your choices tell you what you truly love.
Choose To Go Forward
Where do you want to go in 2016? Are you spending your day doing things that move you closer to your goals? Even in little increments? How many days go past without you even dusting off your goals?
It’s up to you to take responsibility for where you are and where you want to go. Now, if your spouse died suddenly and left you with the kids and the bills, then I will concede that you are faced with circumstances for which you are not entirely responsible. But you are responsible for where you go from here. For the rest of us, we are where we are because of the choices we have made. And we made those choices because of our values. If you choose to sit and watch TV all night, it’s because you love entertainment and rest, no matter what else you tell me. There are people all around you using that time to exercise, take college courses, build relationships, invest in others, clean their homes, grow their own food, plan travel, and a thousand other things.
The key to moving forward on your goals is to be honest with yourself about where you are today and what you need to do to get where you want to go. What choices have brought you to this place? Why did you make those choices? What do they show you about what you actually love?
These are hard questions to ask yourself. You will have to acknowledge some truths about yourself that you will not like. It’s not much fun, but it’s the only way to get out of where you are and move to where you want to go. Ask me how I know. I’ve had to face my responsibility about my divorce, about how my practice is (or isn’t) growing, and every other part of my life. Taking responsibility for your life puts the power to transform in your hands. Blaming makes you a victim.
Read that again: if you blame others for where you are, you’re a victim.
You can’t change what others have done, but you can take responsibility for what you’ve done, and what you will do moving forward. This is where breakthrough starts.
So, let’s figure out what we really love and shape our lives around that. Let’s get honest with ourselves.
Choose To Help Someone Else
I know these are strong words, but I really want to help you change your life. You might know someone who could benefit from this kind of stark personal evaluation. Please take 8 seconds to share this article. You never know whom it might help.
“At the end of your feelings is NOTHING. At the end of your principles is a PROMISE.” — Eric Thomas